When anger comes knocking at your door, do you respond with a fiery blast or a cool breeze? How can you turn that flame into fuel for wisdom?
What’s your secret superpower for defusing anger before it explodes? Share your go-to technique for keeping your inner peace intact.
"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” I’ve been reflecting on this quote often, and it has been really helpful to find space and awareness in myself, before I irrationally react to an intense moment of anger.
For me, humor is what quenches my fierce fiery flames of anger. In the moment I catch my blood beginning to boil, if I can, I look at myself from an outside perspective and just laugh. If I’m by myself I audibly laugh, and if I’m confronted by someone it’s more internal. It is a judgement free, silly laugh. Noticing how hilarious it is, getting upset at such trivial moments, is so liberating. In that moment of humor, my anger seems to dissolve. It has helped develop a sense of light heartedness and playfulness, that has permeated into my daily life.
As Dr. Robert Svoboda just mentioned, “It’s annoying being annoyed.”
I think that emotions, as they arise, are as mechanical as anything that has ever been, and that they’re always a response to unfolding activities in the immediate environment (even if that’s a mental one of rumination), and that they are intelligent responses at that, predicated on a peculiar (total) awareness of our universal destiny, as well as the perennial “truth” that allows for the very conditions which allow life to be, to be sustained.
Interestingly enough, to correctly interpret/work through emotions, one has to reliably trace what exactly triggered said emotional response, which is a question of one’s awareness. As there are a litany of things happening internally (something that doesn’t manifest until adulthood) at any given moment, the likelihood that a stranger could correctly interpret our emotions is very unlikely, as these things appear to be tools which individuals are to use in the capacity of self-care, largely.
So when anger comes knocking, I try to stay prepared to greet it conscientiously. It’s a contextual thing, predicated on universal truth as well as an utter awareness of what the universal stimulus is hoping to achieve in the moment! 
Ah! This is something I have been struggling with especially at my workplace. There used to be a time when I used to blast out but recently I have started taking pause before reacting and i question myself “does this requires my energy? Is this really worth it?”
Whenever I feel angry, I take myself out from that situation and try not think about it for some time once I am back in my peace, I’ll relook at the circumstances and accordingly I’ll respond rather than reacting.
As Anne have mentioned not everything’s in our control, so let it be that is something which took me.