One thing this episode brought up for me
On Conscious vs Relational Love
Sometimes I hear people say that they struggle to love EVERYONE. When I hear this I think, “Of course you do. You already do. You’re just thinking of a different definition of the word love”
True, conscious love is not something established by an interaction between individuals. It is an inner resource of every human being. An inherent characteristic of the state of being, pre-existing any interaction with or knowledge of the other.
Relational “love” seems to be a total misnomer. We love apple pie, friendly neighbors, faithful spouses but in these situations the word crave might be more appropriately substituted.
We struggle to “love” scary spiders, our own neuroses or people who intentionally set out to hurt others but in fact it may be more appropriate to simply say we have an aversion to these things.
True, altruistic love, like that for one’s own child manifests as a preference for seeing them having their needs met and experience joy and peace, without regarding our own needs as having a higher importance. This state is always present in you for all the universe but we may not always see it manifest due to the thinking mind, with its stories, which calls forth the manifestations.
Relational love is an attempt to surround oneself (relate) with the means to have our needs met, which comes from fear, the ego, the place of “2”. Conscious love is inexhaustible and all-encompassing, altruistic and stems from the place of “1”.
Sometimes when we meditate, or when we experience Oneness its easy to see that everything, everyone is included, connected, a necessary piece. Ram Dass said something like that we can’t say “Everything is perfect, but not THAT!” The love is there for that too. Ah, so.
(Some of these phrases were inspired by an article written by Alejandru Mototolea that i read online and I think i should credit)